Types

In trying to think up interesting (and challenging) questions to pose to Dee, I’ve found myself thinking about the variety of patters (or personality types) that you can use to describe or define who you are, sexually speaking. There are probably hundreds of different continuums upon which we can define ourselves. Some of them are obvious:
…On a scale of 1-10, with 1 being totally submissive and 10 being completely dominant…
…On a scale from 1-10, would you say you were homosexual (1), bi (5), or straight (10)?

But there are other patters I recognize, yet can’t place a label on – that is, I don’t know that there are names for them. For example, I think there two types of sexual personalities… the first type (which I’ll refer to as A-Types) are those who prefer a set pattern … for them, it’s less about variety, and more about results. I’m not suggesting A-Types are “in a rut,” doing the same thing the same way every time, but I would say they do have a definite set of favorite moves or positions they can mix-and-match in a way which almost guarantees they’ll have a really good orgasm, every time. They know what they want, and what works for them and make efficient use of that information. They specialize in the slow (or rapid) build-up, and the consistent, satisfying climax.

By contrast, B-Types are all about the variety, even though sometimes that variety doesn’t pay off. For them, it’s more about the journey, and less about the results. These are the people for whom sex starts with a caress and a kiss in their bedroom upstairs, and ends with ass-prints on the car windshield in the garage. These are the people who are in the same position twice in a week only by accident. They go with the flow of the moment, and though they do get to the top of the hill, it’s often after repeated build-ups and backslides.

A-Types can be exceptional sexual partners in the sense that, once you have them figured out, you always know exactly how to turn them on, and exactly what to do to rock their world, but for some (mostly B-Types) A-Types might seem uninspired, even uninteresting. On the other hand, with B-Types, you never really know what is going to work for them – or really get them off -- this time, and what blew their mind last night might, today, bore them to death. This can be frustrating, and slightly demoralizing to your self-esteem (especially to A-Types), but others (mostly B-Types) would rather play the guessing game and enjoy the variety.

When two A-Types get together, the sex will be consistently good (provided they like the same things), but will almost never exceed expectations, since they both know exactly what’s coming. When two B-Types get together, the sex can be mindblowing (when both partners desire the same things in the heat of the moment), or frustrating (when the two partners want different things), and will swing wildly from one to the other from encounter to encounter.

When an A-Type and B-Type get together, the disparity can cause a lot of problems. Still, I think the sex can be good, but only if one partner is willing to give up some of his/her personal preference and submits to becoming more like the other.

I really have nowhere to go with this… but I’ve been pondering the various permutations that define what sexuality is. I think it’d be interesting to come up with a little 10-question thing that really boiled down who a person is, sexually, just as a way of really thinking about what it is we want, like, etc. A little 10-question conversation starter.